There’s probably not one thing about your career that you left to chance. You went to school and worked hard. You applied for jobs, talked to people. You followed up, read up, showed up. You’ve found jobs and lost them; sometimes they left you first. You met new people, forged new connections. You know luck and timing play a role, and that opportunity always favors the well-prepared. Most importantly, you’ve learned to trust your instincts, ask the right questions, and persevere in the face of failure.
So here’s my question to you: Why is your love life any different? Or, more to the point, why are you treating it as if it’s the stuff of fairies and magic dust, instead of, well, anything else in your life that you’ve wanted and worked for?
I’ve seen the schticky books by Harvard MBAs promising to boost your bottom line of love, and I appreciate where they’re coming from, but also recognize that it leaves a lot of people cold. So, no, I’m not going to tell you to write a business plan or a press release to the universe. Nothing saps the romance out of romance like turning it into a job.
But I am telling you to apply the same care and intention (not just attention) to your personal life as you do your professional one. Because the fact is, work isn’t just work; your career is something you’ve invested in wholeheartedly. You believe in it and have big dreams for it. Even the language you use to talk about work isn’t just about money or title — it’s about whether it’s aligned with your values, sustainable, gives you the space to be authentic, creative, and all of that. Wouldn’t you want your relationship to be the same? To do that, you need to apply your career smarts to your love life. Here’s how.