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Earning: Chuck the Rescue Fantasy Comments

  • By Mikelann Valterra
  • November 30, 2009


balloonsMikelann Valterra is the director of the Women’s Earning Institute, a money coach, prosperity teacher, speaker and published author. Check out her blog here: www.savvywomenearning.com.

Why do many women struggle with earning enough money?

We could give you 15 different answers, and each one would ring true for someone. Women don’t negotiate as often as men do; we still earn less for comparable work, and so forth.

But there's another, deeper issue that many women need to address: the fantasy of being rescued.

The rescue fantasy can be disguised in many ways. It's not always a fairy tale scenario (charming prince, castle, etc.). Yet many of us cling to the illusion that somehow, some way, it won't be up to us to earn what we need to earn.

  • Your investments (or home) will appreciate enough that earning won't be an issue
  • You'll inherit enough money so that you'll always be okay.
  • A big idea (screenplay, website, business) will make you millions.

What is operating as a form of “Prince Charming” in your life? What do you secretly hope will rescue you?

Fear drives the rescue fantasy. Perhaps you're overwhelmed by what it would take to secure your financial future. Or you fear that you can’t earn enough money doing what you do.

Women often worry that they don't have the right money skills—they can never be financially competent.

Enter...the person or event that (in your dreams) will save you.

These fantasies aren't bad in and of themselves. But when they shift from occasional distraction to unconscious financial backup plan, you put yourself in a passive position, never earning or planning up to your potential.

So name your rescue fantasy. When we become conscious of our rescue fantasies, we can finally let them go—and discover the power to rescue ourselves.

Mikelann Valterra is the director of the Women’s Earning Institute, a money coach, prosperity teacher, speaker and published author. Check out her blog here: www.savvywomenearning.com.

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