The Price of Being a Princess

In this recent post for The Grindstone, I asked women some hard questions—questions that challenge notions of “feminine ideals,”e.g., surrendering investing responsibilities to someone else and idealizing full-time motherhood over self-sufficiency.

In an age where jobs, bank accounts, and overall security feel tenuous at best, can we afford princess dreams, or rescue fantasies in any form?

Three women weighed in with varying opinions:

Kirin ChristiansonPageant queen Kirin Christianson responds, “This article presents a rather limited scope of women. As the representative for Arizona to compete in the upcoming Mrs. America pageant, I’ve founded 3 companies, give 300 hours a year to charity, AND have my very own prince charming…but I’ve worked my butt off to get here. It wasn’t handed to me. And at the end of the day, I feel we all need a little bit of fairytale magic in our lives.”
Amanda ClaymanAmanda Clayman, in an eloquent response titled “Princess, Post-Doc, Publisher, Mom?” writes, “I can’t help but think of how complex (and wonderful!) our choices are as women. I am so glad there are voices like Amanda’s that urge us as women to protect ourselves. But … [it’s not that] simple. As I got older, I pivoted to something decidedly more family-friendly.” 
Joy ChudacoffJoy Chudacoff writes, “[Women] are accused of not being risk-takers, however I think opting-out can be one of the biggest risks of all for women. I have worked hard to create a business that allows me to focus on Motherhood and Making Money. I’m happily married to a great guy, however I’m not looking for him to ‘rescue’ me. I’m looking for a partner to share life with. We rescue each other.”

Carriage or pumpkin? Do you know someone stuck in a rescue fantasy?