Building Momentum

Amanda Steinberg

I’ve been thinking about the role of confidence in being able to create the results you want—financial, lifestyle, anything. 

There are only about 10,000 books on this topic. But in light of the shifting role of women (read any Hanna Rosin or Liza Mundylately?), I think self-faith—and the momentum it brings—is crucial.

Confidence and power are traits that seem to come naturally to some women. Somehow I had the good fortune of being born confident. Yet too many more women—regardless of experience, skills or gifts—still live inside of “I’m not good enough.”

I’ve learned to appreciate my gifts and my manyflaws. I think that’s where true confidence starts: being able to celebrate what makes you special, be able to communicate it and own it, rather than living in a place of self-doubt.

What’s “good enough” anyway? We’re all a mish-mash of good and bad, skill and quirk, lightness and darkness

If you can’t see your own gifts—learn how to quiet your harsh superego—that loud, obnoxious voice in your head that eats away at you. Self deprecation isn’t real—it’s a learned pattern.

I return regularly to my favorite quote from Marianne Williamson. You’ve heard it before, butabsorb it now:

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.

Sparkle. How do you cultivate confidence and inner-strength? How can we help more women do the same?