My Financial Turning Point

Janet Alvarez

Janet Alvarez

When we asked you to share your Financial Turning Point stories, hundreds of you did—and they were amazing. Thank you. It was tough to pick five winners, but we’ll feature one each week in honor of all our readers. Janet Alvarez leads with a moment of clarity.

I think it is a trait of women to be givers. But being a giver has a downside. You end up being bitter, wondering, “Where’s the giving to me?”

And that was me. After years of giving, and giving and…giving, I wondered where and when the receiving part would start.

One day, I needed a favor from my husband. He didn’t exactly jump to it. Angry, I reminded him of all I did for him. He asked me, “Did I ever ask you for any of those things?”

He never had. I’d done them all on my own self-righteous hook.

A financial turning point? Well, yes, since my world view affects everything in my life, including my finances. Ultimately, this was a life-turning point as well:

If you wish to grow yourself, whether it is monetarily or emotionally, find a solid balance between the giving and the taking.

Know what you deserve to be paid for, whether that is in your job or your emotional/spiritual life.

Whatever you are doing, do it gladly, without thinking that you are owed extra for the doing.

And…if you cannot give the little bit ‘extra’ gladly, don’t give it.

I’m grateful every day for that moment of hurt, that very simple and yet large epiphany.

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