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Can You Get Stronger Just By Thinking In a New Way? (Yes)

  • By Renee Heiss, YourTango
  • January 24, 2014

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When you strengthen your thoughts, you strengthen your actions, which leads you to a stronger life, and if you think of your mind as a mental kingdom, you'll see that it has many levels and chambers. You have all you could possibly need in that mental kingdom—a kitchen where you cook thoughts, a den where you play with thoughts, a bedroom where you, get the idea! Here are five ways to strengthen your mental kingdom:

1. Think positively. Think about the cans rather than the can'ts. Think about what's good in your life rather than what's bad. You know that half-full glass? People who think positively see it a third way—that they have a glass for their liquids, not whether it is half-full or half-empty!  So the next time your boss complains about a job you felt was well-done, look at it positively in any number of ways: At least he noticed my work on some level, that was good information I can use on my next assignment, or that I need to find a new job before I quit this one.  Positive thoughts lead to positive actions, which lead to a positive life.

2. Think about your goals. Make short-term, interim, and long-term goals. Make those goals in different categories—relationships, home, work, etc. Start with easily attainable goals and work your way up to the mountain you thought was insurmountable. Let's say you want to put an addition onto your home. You don’t have the money to do that so you resign yourself to the negative thought—I'll always be stuck in this little house. 

Instead, consider the goals: Short term might be to investigate all options for that addition (cost, design, etc.) Post a picture of that addition on your fridge or bulletin board. An interim goal might be to get a second job so you can save enough money for the addition. Or save $50 a week for a number of years. When you meet the short-term and interim goals, you will meet the long-term goal of putting on that addition! Goal-setting leads to actions that lead to a realization of that goal.

3. Think about your schedule. You're overwhelmed by the demands on your life. Groceries, carpools, work assignments, laundry, housekeeping, etc. You don't have enough time to reorganize your office, or get back to that craft you started two years ago, or maybe you can't even find time to go to your kids soccer match. Ouch! Set your priorities, then set a schedule. Make sure when you set that schedule, you put in some time for yourself, by yourself. 

Here's a sample jumbled Saturday: You get up, make breakfast for the crew, put in a load of laundry drive the kids to piano lessons and soccer practice on opposite sides of town, come home, start a second load of laundry, go back out and pick up some groceries and the kids, fix lunch, clean the kitchen, strip the beds, vacuum and dust downstairs, make dinner, eat dinner, watch TV with the kids, put the kids to bed, and then collapse. Where's the "you" time? Schedule it in! Either get up early and read a book, or after the kids go to bed, spend an hour on your hobby. When you think about your schedule, you can change your actions within that schedule, which changes your outlook on life as a result of that improved schedule.

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