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The Couple’s Guide to Facing a Money Crisis

  • By Daniel Linder, MFT, Ronda Wada, Ph.D. Sherrie Campbell, YourTango
  • January 31, 2014

6. Practice humility. If we lose our money we often have an attitude adjustment regarding finances. If you are in this place it is time to slim down all excessive habits and live in humility. This is a discussion to be had with your family, your spouse and your employees. Learning to live slim has great value because you are able to see what in your life has real value. Slimming down is sometimes like clearing clutter of excess needs or desires. How slim can you live? Can you still find happiness while living slim? Can you love yourself the same in a simple car? If not, why not? What can you learn about life, yourself, your family when you slim down?

7. Engage yourself in SAE. When it comes to stress, we all handle it differently. These simple differences can result in small fissures that ultimately harm the relationship. One of the best ways to plan for the unexpected is to be prepared. Think about your partner and consider how you approach stressful events, then work on seeing, acknowledging and embracing your differences. What's the good side of how how he approaches stress? What does she do that makes a positive outcome more likely? The lesson here is that if you're not prepared to deal with each other's differences, when challenges arise, the ensuing disillusionment could turn an opportunity to strengthen the relationship into one that destroys it.

8. Practice abundant vs excessive thinking. A financial crisis, though devastating, allows us the chance to recalibrate, start over and evolve to a higher level of balance. Call to mind a study on two groups of people: one group wrote down goals while the other group just thought about their goals. Those who wrote their goals achieved them 4 times more frequently. Those who thought about their goals did not achieve even a third of their list. Their goals remained in the state of a wish. A wish is only potential. If you want to change your financial situation, write down what you want to change, share ideas with those who can support you, ask for their input and collectively start along your achievement path to abundance. Find a place to begin this new program, waste no time, and start now!

9. Address your fear-based thoughts. When we slim down, we can become abundant. Begin to remain open to new financial ideas, opportunities and ways of living that are without excess. If you live with abundance you will pull abundance to you. Your outer world will mirror your inner world. If you live in fear and lack, you will get fear and lack. People who succeed remain persistent in their hard work and their belief that the money will come, and eventually it does. 

10.  Picture a successful outcome. We get overwhelmed when we envision failure. Notice when negative thoughts come up. Shift back to thoughts that empower you to move forward. Keep believing that you are fully capable of handling the current situation regardless of how long it takes to turn it around. You can do it.

This story was provided by our content partner, YourTango, a digital media company dedicated to love and relationships. No matter what love stage our users are in — single, taken, engaged, married, starting over, or complicated — we help them live their best love lives. Written by Daniel Linder, MFT, Ronda Wada, Ph.D. and Sherrie Campbell.

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