How a Painful Divorce Inspired Me To Build a Business

May 16, 2014

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Financial Analyst & Divorce Strategist. Motivator of women to become the CFO of their lives!

I quickly found myself stewing in, “What in the hell am I going to do with the rest of my life?” My then 16-year role as CMO — Chief Mommy Officer — wasn’t going to attract many job offers. I suppose there was some correlation between negotiating multi-million dollar deals and refereeing fights over LEGOs, but it would be a stretch for a prospective boss to see the connection.  

Regardless of any spin factor, the facts didn’t lie: I was 41 and a stay-at-home mom raising three boys alone. All variables led to the same conclusion and it wasn’t pretty.  I began to break my situation down into mathematical equations of “if, then” statements — you know, like those formulas from an Excel spreadsheet:

IF I find a job, THEN I can pay the legal fees of this freakin’ divorce.
IF I find a job, THEN I can pay off my debt.
IF I find a job, THEN I can enjoy a good bottle of wine again.
IF I find a job, THEN Jimmy Choo and I can date.
IF I find a man with money, THEN I will live happily ever after.

Wait…did I actually think that, let alone believe it? 

That was the one and only moment that the pink-haired lady and I had something in common. And that was my wake-up call. It was the call to become fully independent again. I will sign the checks, I will pay the bills and I will buy my own shoes and wine.

With a few thousand dollars, boundless tenacity and a deep-rooted passion to help other women find their voice through financial independence, WomenWealthyWise was born. I now coach women across the country on how to take charge of their financial well-being and to fully realize the profound impact their money has on all aspects of their lives. Being part of that transformation is some of the most rewarding work I have ever done — because I’ve been there.

Most of us live in our story one too many days — that is until we get those 5:48 (wake-up) calls. Then it is time to get up, pull on the big girl panties, and stand in front of the mirror to see that the only thing standing in the way of where you are and where you want to be is you.

Steph Wagner is a member of the DailyWorth Connect program. Read more about the program here.

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