Why You Should Be Grateful for Stressful Moments

December 22, 2015

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It’s that special time of year again when our lives are filled with ideas of love and joy, and the very real holiday stress that is added to our daily struggles. If you are feeling overwhelmed this holiday season by the daunting challenges you face, it may be time to change your perspective and start to consider that these are really lessons waiting to be learned. Acknowledging your difficulties with gratitude can help you transform them into opportunities to grow and make your journey easier.

Let’s face it, most people don’t get an even break in this life. But for those who are inquisitive and have an inkling of self-awareness, trying to find the balance in their daily routines, or even believing that they deserve to be happy, can sometimes feel like pushing a sofa down a football field — without casters.

Everyone has her own mission in this life, and throughout the year we go about our daily lives trying our best to find happiness, stability, and joy. So many people take for granted the simple gifts in their lives and only focus on what they don’t have. Isn’t this the perfect time to change that?

Are you grateful for your challenges?

If your answer is no, then here are some suggestions to help shift the energy and change the way you manage your difficult moments. Try this exercise for the holidays and observe how different your life feels with the coming of the New Year.

1. Choose.  
The universe makes all the power you need available to you everyday. You just have to make the choice to use it. If you don’t fix the problem in front of you, it will continue to define who you are and control you.   

2. Be Accountable.
Everything happens for a reason. You create everything that is in front of you every moment of everyday. Taking responsibility for your choices can empower you to overcome the difficult situations.

3. Believe.
We are souls moving through time, and we inhabit the physical world as a means to heal and work through past issues. The emotional problems we face were created generations ago in our lives by circumstances of our ancestors’ choices, but are now surfacing as symbols and metaphors in the material world.

4. Trust.
The universe only wants you to be happy. It has provided certain gifts so that everyone can feel joy and contentment, and all it wants back in return is a simple thank you.

Let me give you a scenario to illustrate what I mean: Barbara has a coworker who has been disrespectful to her. Historically, Barbara has backed away from confrontations and let the disrespect go unmentioned because confrontations stir up too many uncomfortable memories of her childhood. But, she wants to change that and finally feels entitled to being treated with respect.

So, she has a choice. She has the power to change her own behavior and, consequently, her coworker’s behavior will shift in response like the ripples in a pond.

Barbara takes the coworker aside and tells him that he may no longer speak to her in that fashion.

By having self-awareness, Barbara is being accountable to herself for her past unwillingness to confront others. She believes that what she is responding to may be more complicated than just what appears on the surface. She is trusting that she deserves respect and acknowledges that only she can make it happen.    

As Barbara thanks the universe for this gift, her internal energy will shift and in doing so, her coworker’s response will be different. There’s an adage I think is important to remember: “If you change the way you look at something, what you are looking at will change.” Barbara’s choice to take her power back by demanding respect builds her confidence and her belief that she deserves to be happy.

Those little daily skirmishes are gifts from the universe to help us heal and move forward. They are designed to seem small, but when done consistently, have life altering results.

Pegi Burdick was a serial entrepreneur, accomplished business woman, and is now an expert on helping women create empowering relationships with money. Listen to her radio interviews, and get more tips on managing your emotions and your money by subscribing to her newsletter at The Financial Whisperer. (When you sign up, you’ll  receive a chapter of her book, It’s NEVER About the Money...Even When It Is, as a thank you.) Have fun and learn more about yourself with this money quiz. Follow Pegi on Twitter for more tips: @thefinwhisperer

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