Relationships

Are You and Your Sweetheart Financially Compatible?

Are You and Your Sweetheart Financially Compatible?

It’s the month of celebrating love, but financial conflicts can dampen celebrations—and entire relationships. If you share finances with a spouse or significant other (or if you plan to in the future), you probably already know that you…

The Warning Signs of Financial Abuse

The Warning Signs of Financial Abuse

[Editor’s Note: The following piece contains descriptions of graphic violence.]

One hot summer afternoon, 15-year-old Nancy Salamone was hanging out on the boardwalk at Orchard Beach, in her hometown of the Bronx, which is how she spent…

The Joke About Women And Money

The Joke About Women And Money

My husband has a habit of saying in public that I am “bad with money.” He’ll toss this out in conversation as though it’s common knowledge, expecting to be met with general agreement, not debate. If he were…

Are You Ready for Marriage?

Are You Ready for Marriage?

I once knew a girl in college who started a binder of fantasy wedding clippings when she was 8 years old. This perplexed me.

I grew up in a household with happily married parents who never pushed romantic ideals upon…

7 Common Money Lies Couples Tell

7 Common Money Lies Couples Tell

Several years ago, a friend of mine admitted she had a bank account her husband didn’t know about so that she could spend from her secret stash on the sly. And recently, an acquaintance who owns a luxury jewelry…

5 Things to Know Before Saying ‘I Do’

5 Things to Know Before Saying ‘I Do’

The sun is shining, the birds are chirping, and the sunset falls later each day. It can only mean one thing: Wedding season is upon us! Planning a wedding is no joke, and there are thousands (millions?) of things to…

Don’t Let Financial Shame Hurt Your Relationships

Don’t Let Financial Shame Hurt Your Relationships

Money conversations can bring up a wheelbarrow of issues, including shame, fear, and isolation — the trifecta of emotions. For “Susan,” these hidden feelings were beginning to wear on her relationship with her partner because she was never…

How Are Pets Handled In Divorce?

How Are Pets Handled In Divorce?

Mark and Julie are getting divorced. The process hasn’t been fun, but it’s mostly been reasonable, and settlement negotiations have all but concluded. They’ve decided who gets the house, who’ll keep which…

Love and Money: A 3-Part Series

Love and Money: A 3-Part Series

If you are starting to go through a divorce, you’re probably experiencing a range of difficult emotions, but you’re also dealing with drastic changes to your financial situation. While the divorce proceedings will eventually end, it…

Do You Fight Over Money?

Do You Fight Over Money?

You’ve heard that disagreements over money are a major cause of divorce. So, why don’t more couples work to manage these differences of opinion before it’s too late? I believe it’s because…

Financial Questions to Ask Before Marriage

Financial Questions to Ask Before Marriage

For couples on the brink of getting married, the whole “how do we co-manage our finances” subject can really dampen the celebratory mood. Nevertheless, it’s an important topic to tackle — particularly when one or…

Divorce Should You Litigate or Settle

Divorce Should You Litigate or Settle

With help from movies and television, the stereotypical, high-drama divorce trial has become firmly ensconced in popular culture. We can all picture the angry, vindictive spouses, the animated legal teams, and the robed, sage judge. But if you&rsquo…

Is Divorce Failure?

Is Divorce Failure?

I have a love/hate relationship with F-words. A whole bunch of F-words inspired by a single D-word. Divorce.

The particular F-word that you are thinking of is not far off. If you’re reading…

What I Learned from Jen Glantz, Professional Bridesmaid

What I Learned from Jen Glantz, Professional Bridesmaid

Last summer, Jen Glantz posted a now-famous Craigslist post advertising her services as a professional bridesmaid after being asked to be a bridesmaid in a staggering number of weddings. When her inbox flooded with responses, Glantz decided to start…

How Much Does It Cost to Date

How Much Does It Cost to Date

Over the summer and into the early part of fall, I dated a guy — we slept at his place after nights on the town, carved out time for couple-esque weekend activities, and in general, felt high with the buzz…

How to Talk to Your Partner About Money

How to Talk to Your Partner About Money

Being a relative newcomer to dating, I’ve been intrigued with how people get to know one another and what they look for in a prospective mate. Often, people are adamant about being with someone who shares their political…

How to Talk About Money in a Relationship

How to Talk About Money in a Relationship

About a year before my husband and I tied the knot, we had a financial powwow over margaritas (just one each). We wrote down our personal “numbers” — including savings, debt, and credit scores — on Post-its. Then we did a…